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It is very important to recognize that the reactions we feel are not necessarily who we are. When emotional reactions occur, we need to have the capacity to dissociate ourselves from the reactions that are happening. This is especially important for a meditator. What sense is there in being a meditator without being able to look at our reactions or neurotic behavior in this way?

As we get older, we naturally cultivate renunciation. We can nurture this quality by reflecting on the variety of experiences we've already had. This automatically diminishes our craving to repeat similar experiences. We find ourselves no longer so driven to crank up our life in an attempt to have more and to accomplish more, since we've already tasted that fruit, with all the accompanying emotions. We can begin to relax a little, being content with all that we've experienced already in our life.

Sometimes we feel we do well at managing our life and sometimes we feel that we fail at managing the details of our lives. If we only have a limited vision for ourselves, there’s not going to be the kind of potential to experience life to the fullest. Often we miss the greatest abundance of life because of our tendency of over-managing. Do we want to be in the nature, in the spontaneity of life, or do we want to constantly project all kinds of fears before beginning any activity.

Pain is all about non-acceptance. Sometimes what you truly desire one day, is painful another. We go to movies to feel the emotions of dramatic tension and brokenhearted, other times we dread those feelings. We are always preoccupied with this "wanting" and "not wanting" of sensations and emotions. It is important to always remember who is picking and choosing and acknowledge our true strength lies beyond all of that.

We should ask ourselves, where do we want to end up?—with the weakness of always holding onto our own small agenda, or with the strength that comes from accepting all outcomes. Having faith in the three jewels actually means having faith in yourself and the power and goodness of your own mind.

When we feel deeply shaken at the core of our being, we lose our self confidence and start to identify ourselves with a weak state of mind. When this happens, our normal concerns and anxieties become "double anxieties". Choosing faith at this moment is the remedy that warms our frozen trembling heart and restores our strength of mind.

We all have a longing and desire to remain strongly connected to our spiritual path. But as time passes we often lose this. Cultivate a freshness to our longing, returning to it again and again. Without that we will not have much heart to travel on the spiritual path.

If we only have relationships based on emotions, today we might feel in love with someone, but tomorrow we might feel totally out of love with them. In this situation, how can we actually feel trust in someone else, when our experience is based solely on temporary feelings?

Consider how social values have changed over time, and become less cherished in peoples’ hearts. A sign of the degenerate age is when people no longer reflect on what is important in their lives. Looking honestly at the modern society we find ourselves in, we can identify the causes of our suffering and gain more sympathy for others in the same conditions.

Most of us do not appreciate our minds. There are so many thoughts that pop up and agitate us, like the little pieces of junk we keep in a drawer at home. Firstly, it is important to realize that our junk pot mind can be transformed. And gradually through training, instead of having annoying thoughts about others pop up in our mind, thinking of others can actually become a source of ecstacy and rejuvenation for us, like walking through a flower garden.